What should I text before a first date?
Confirm the logistics
A day or two before the date, send a quick message to confirm the time and place. For example: 'Hey! Just checking—we're still on for Saturday at 7 at [restaurant]? Looking forward to it!' This shows you're organized and interested.
If you need to adjust something, do it now rather than waiting until the last minute. Be clear and considerate of their time.
Build anticipation
You can add a playful or warm comment to build excitement. Something like: 'I've been saving up my best stories for Saturday 😉' or 'Can't wait to finally try that place with you.'
Avoid heavy or overly personal topics right before the date. Keep the mood light and fun so you both feel comfortable.
- Confirm the time and location.
- Express genuine enthusiasm without overdoing it.
- Ask if they have any dietary restrictions if you're choosing the restaurant.
- Mention something you're looking forward to about the date.
- Keep it brief—no need for a long conversation.
Day-of text
On the day of the date, a simple 'See you tonight!' or 'On my way!' is enough. If you're running late, let them know as soon as possible with a brief apology and an ETA.
Don't send a barrage of messages. One or two is plenty. If they don't respond, don't panic—they might be getting ready.
Common mistakes
- Not confirming at all, leading to uncertainty or a no-show.
- Sending too many messages and seeming anxious.
- Bringing up controversial topics before you've even met.